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    If they talk like THIS… they’re a narcissist - YouTube

    This source explains how individuals with narcissistic traits manipulate others through their tone of voice, highlighting five distinct examples. It argues that our brains instinctively react to tone, making it a powerful, often subconscious, tool for influence, and details tones like over-the-top charm (love bombing), the "popular" tone (subtle condescension), the martyr tone (inducing guilt), the raging tone (intimidation), and the monotone voice (devaluation). The text concludes by suggesting the "3-second power pause" as a strategy to interrupt the emotional response and respond thoughtfully rather than reactively.

    Based on the provided source, there are specific tactics and a general tool suggested for dealing with individuals, particularly those identified as narcissists, who use manipulative tones of voice.
    The core concept presented is that narcissistic individuals use their tone of voice as a "secret weapon" to manipulate others into trust, guilt, or fear. Understanding and responding to these manipulative tones is key.
    Here are the strategies and tools discussed in the source:
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    The 3-Second Power Pause: This is presented as one of the simplest and most effective tools to protect yourself from tone-based tactics.
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    How it works: When you notice someone's tone affecting you, you should pause for just 3 seconds before responding. This involves taking a slow, deep breath and counting to three in your head.
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    Purpose: This small break is designed to interrupt your brain's automatic emotional response and stop the "emotional hijacking" that manipulators rely on. It gives you time and space to assess the situation logically instead of reacting on autopilot.
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    Self-Check: While pausing, you are advised to ask yourself three questions:
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    Does their tone match their words and the situation?
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    How do I feel right now (e.g., pressured, guilty, intimidated)?
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    What's their possible intent?
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    This self-check helps keep you grounded and focused on their behavior rather than just your emotional reaction. After pausing and checking in, you can respond thoughtfully instead of emotionally.
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    Specific Responses to Different Manipulative Tones: The source identifies several "red flags" or manipulative tones and suggests ways to respond to each one:
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    Over-the-Top Charm / Excessively Sweet Voice: This tone, often syrupy and overly enthusiastic, can make you feel obligated to give them your time, energy, or support.
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    Suggested Response: "I'll need to think about that". This helps you avoid being swept into their charm.
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    Popular Tone / Casual Laidback Tone: This tone makes you feel like you need to earn their approval or inclusion by subtly reminding you that you're not quite at their level.
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    Suggested Response: A calm response like "Interesting, why do you say that?". This subtly challenges their implied superiority without being confrontational.
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    Martyr Tone / Sorrowful and Heavy: This tone is crafted to make you feel like you've let them down or that their suffering is somehow your fault, aiming to guilt trip you into action.
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    Suggested Response: "I'm sorry you feel that way". This acknowledges their emotions but stops them from guilt tripping you into action.
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    Raging Tone / Loud and Aggressive: This tone aims to shock, overwhelm, or terrify you into compliance or silence.
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    Suggested Response: Calmly state, "I'm not comfortable with this conversation right now," and disengage if needed.
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    Monotone Voice / Flat, Detached, Emotionless: This passive-aggressive tone is meant to convey that you don't matter and is a way of withdrawing emotional engagement or subtle punishment.
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    Suggested Response: The source suggests that the best response is often no response. Instead of reacting to their dismissal, hold your ground and continue saying what you were saying as if their indifference has no effect on you.
    These strategies are presented as ways to regain control over your emotions and decisions when encountering these manipulative tone-based tactics.

    April 29, 2025 at 5:56:24 AM PDT * - permalink - archive.org -
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    Meadow_DeVor narcissism psychology influence
  • Why You Should NEVER Give Advice - YouTube
    January 24, 2025 at 11:56:42 AM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ArPsI5shzU4
    Chris_Voss influence
  • 80% of Humans Thoughts Are NEGATIVE - YouTube
    January 1, 2025 at 7:56:27 AM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/HMz00GpE8eY
    Chris_Voss influence
  • My Favorite Way To Say “No” - YouTube
    December 31, 2024 at 7:49:50 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/6E1hmP0IDjY
    Chris_Voss influence
  • How To Avoid Hotel Cancellation Fees - YouTube

    I"m so sorry, this is my problem, it's not your problem.

    December 29, 2024 at 12:25:26 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Obh4G-Gs-Mw
    Chris_Voss influence
  • The SECRET To Winning Any Negotiation - YouTube

    Use how and what questions to give illusion that other party in control. How am I supposed to do that...How would that work...What am I supposed to do...Until they land on answer you like, then heap on the praise, you are so smart...brilliant.

    December 29, 2024 at 12:12:17 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/SoErQfLkqjY
    Chris_Voss influence
  • How To AVOID Sounding Like A Jerk - YouTube
    December 29, 2024 at 12:05:19 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/PVHTLdKAm3Y
    Chris_Voss influence
  • The "Problem" With Women… - YouTube

    Prep them with "I'm sorry" at the front, not the end.

    December 29, 2024 at 9:49:14 AM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/ldEn7PM3Zs8
    Chris_Voss influence
  • How To Deal With Greedy People - YouTube
    December 28, 2024 at 4:49:40 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/Ol5QWhKOo0w
    influence Chris_Voss
  • How Restaurants Uses Mints To Make More Money - YouTube
    December 28, 2024 at 4:37:18 PM PST * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/shorts/gT0RxWyFA_Q
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    Book Summary: Never Split the Difference by Chris Voss

    Start with “I’m sorry …”;

    March 20, 2023 at 8:57:39 AM PDT * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.samuelthomasdavies.com/book-summaries/business/never-split-the-difference/
    Chris_Voss negotiation influence books summary
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    FBI negotiator disagreement with Sam Harris | Chris Voss and Lex Fridman - YouTube
    March 20, 2023 at 6:55:37 AM PDT * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=j2IHaAGYxUQ
    Chris_Voss influence Lex_Fridman
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    Jason Hanson's Simple Spy Tactic to Keep You Out of Trouble - YouTube

    Flattery gets you nearly everywhere...

    March 18, 2023 at 5:20:59 PM PDT * - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=d1lLC5HoDGU
    psychology influence
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    What Is Wrong with 68 Million Americans? | DCReport.org
    November 5, 2020 at 5:16:38 PM PST - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.dcreport.org/2020/11/05/what-is-wrong-with-68-million-americans/
    psychology influence
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    Nearly half 'reopen America' Twitter accounts are bots: report - Business Insider

    It's unclear who's behind the surge in bot activity or whether they're originating from the US or abroad.

    May 22, 2020 at 10:39:58 PM PDT - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.businessinsider.com/nearly-half-of-reopen-america-twitter-accounts-are-bots-report-2020-5?fbclid=IwAR11zb8Tbmx-BAFbe95tZycWzLBMaOR3Ki4xgjyhykL30CEeJ97VPPWqGSU
    twitter influence coronavirus
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    Nearly half 'reopen America' Twitter accounts are bots: report - Business Insider

    It's unclear who's behind the surge in bot activity or whether they're originating from the US or abroad.

    May 22, 2020 at 10:39:58 PM PDT - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.businessinsider.com/nearly-half-of-reopen-america-twitter-accounts-are-bots-report-2020-5?fbclid=IwAR11zb8Tbmx-BAFbe95tZycWzLBMaOR3Ki4xgjyhykL30CEeJ97VPPWqGSU
    twitter influence coronavirus
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    Nearly half 'reopen America' Twitter accounts are bots: report - Business Insider

    It's unclear who's behind the surge in bot activity or whether they're originating from the US or abroad.

    May 22, 2020 at 10:39:58 PM PDT - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.businessinsider.com/nearly-half-of-reopen-america-twitter-accounts-are-bots-report-2020-5?fbclid=IwAR11zb8Tbmx-BAFbe95tZycWzLBMaOR3Ki4xgjyhykL30CEeJ97VPPWqGSU
    twitter influence coronavirus
  • How to Apply Cialdini’s Six Principles of Influence to Your Website
    July 4, 2019 at 6:38:54 AM PDT - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://blog.jeremysaid.com/blog/how-to-apply-cialdinis-six-principles-of-influence-for-cro/
    influence persuasion
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    5 Methods of Persuasion to Help You Get What You Want
    January 23, 2019 at 8:27:48 PM UTC - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://blog.blackswanltd.com/the-edge/5-methods-of-persuasion-to-help-you-get-what-you-want?_hsenc=p2ANqtz-_5v4w3ynfG7xZ9b6nGHqmEqVoETuBsIfydUchKm66mu9BroWhwWFes81P5NxrngCmFpoMo1YODXFs1ZbkPQepimdQr4Q&_hsmi=69185761
    influence persuasion
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    Negotiation Skills: How To Negotiate To Buy A Car - YouTube
    November 21, 2018 at 12:49:40 AM UTC - permalink - archive.org -
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    - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AVqdBeRP5GM
    negotiation influence cars
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